Monday, May 14, 2012

Soap Box Maternity Monday

I am noticing more and more that the women who "loved being pregnant" haven't actually been pregnant for quite some time. I'm also noticing that those same women seem to look down on me for having the audacity to say that I dislike being pregnant. So, I will say this one last time...

Just because I'm not ecstatic about being a human vessel does not mean that I will love my child any less than you love yours. 

I dislike pregnancy. Not my baby. So, just go ahead and tell me how I feel about her. I dare you. No? Good idea.

I've always had a problem with people who tell me what I'm feeling and/or thinking. I'm sorry, are you me? Do you know every ounce of information there is to know about my pregnancy circumstances? No? Then keep your mouth shut. Yes, I may be hormonal and crabby. No, I haven't gotten much sleep lately and that's probably why I'm creating a new hole for you to breathe out of. But, seriously. What gives you the right to say these things to me? Do you know that every single piece of "advice" you give me makes me cry myself to sleep? Do you know that you are making me question whether or not I will be a good mother? Of course not. So, I'm telling you. 

Please, for the love of all that is good, pay attention to what you say and who you say it to. 

4 comments:

  1. Sorry you're having such a rough time girl. People are just too judgmental. It's ok to feel the way you do. It's your body and you're the only one who knows how you really feel. Forget everyone else.

    Keep your head up!

    <3 Jamie

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  2. I just thought I'd share this advice with you... :) Just kidding. I think this is generally why I keep most of what I think to myself. I think it must be ingrained in women to share what they consider "helpful" advice. Sometimes it is, but really, sometimes it's just a)annoying b)deflating c)bizarre d)all of the above. The more you share, the more inclined these very thoughtful, helpful women will tell you all their goodies.

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